10 REASONS YOU SHOULD TAKE A BREAK FROM SEX

Sex can be incredible, but it can also be the giant,
panting, red elephant sitting at the dinner table.
Eliminating sex from the equation for a few months
after a breakdown (whether it be of a marriage or
otherwise) might be a good way to ease a bit of
pressure and spend a little more time getting to know
someone — which is especially great if that someone is
you.
Here are 10 sëxy reasons to take a break:

1. You’re worth far too much to sneak home in last
night’s clothes, wondering what that acrobatic
person’s last name was.

2. Imagine taking a little longer to get to know
someone before you drop your knickers and avoiding
that, “Gee, if I knew this last week, I would not have
slept with you,” feeling.

3. Contrary to popular belief, sëx with someone new
does not cure past heartaches. Better to give that heart
time to heal before you let someone else in your bed.

4. Yes, sëx is yummy but flirtations and sëxual tension
can be utterly delicious. Enjoy them a while!

5. You can wear your comfy cotton undies on dates
and your date will be none the wiser.

6. There is something to be said about totally selfish
self love. Take yourself on dates, wear sëxy
unmentionables (for your eyes only) and, at the end of
the evening, if you’re so inclined, get to know yourself
a little better.

7. STDs just love casual sëx.

8. You know that pile of clothes in your bedroom that
you keep meaning to pick up and wash? Yeah, you
don’t have to do that just yet.

9. Finding new ways to get excited and be intimate
with yourself or someone new can be incredible.

Cooking, dancing, painting, talking, exercising — the
possibilities are endless. Get to know your body, your
likes and dislikes, things that turn you on and off and
heighten your senses in other ways for a while.

10. When it does happen, it will be because you really,
really want it to. Now, that’s sexy.

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10 Signs A Guy Is Immature — A Must Read!

Noticed stuff about immature girls earlier, before all the guys start feeling superiority complex, here’s theirs gals. Enjoy…


1. You’re his first real relationship: He had a girlfriend or two in high school, but hasn’t dated since. If you’re his first girlfriend in the “real world” you’re probably going to have to teach him a few basics. The only thing he has to compare this relationship to are the hormone and puberty induced ones he had when he was seventeen. In his head, when things get rough you’re going to act like his psychotic high school girlfriend, and he’s going to treat you as such. Bottom line: if you’re his first real girlfriend, you’re going to have to teach him a lot, and most of that will be the difference between girls and women.


2. He doesn’t know how to communicate: Communication is key to any relationship. There are going to be confrontations, fights, and near-breakups, but how these are handled are what determines if the couple is going to make it or not. If your boy/man-child isn’t willing to listen to you, or he readily dismisses your feelings, he’s not mature enough to be with you in the long run.


3. He loves his pride more than the relationship: There is a certain amount of give and take in relationships, and a ton of choosing your battles. If your man loves being right more than he loves you, he’s no man at all—he’s just a stubborn boy. Everyone has to swallow their pride at some point, and boys aren’t willing to do this yet.


4. He doesn’t own his flaws: This one is about placing blame, and when something happens in a relationship it’s hardly ever just one person’s fault. If you’re willing to accept what you did wrong, and he isn’t, he essentially thinks he’s always right. Not only is that immature, it’s egotistical. Double-whammy.


5. He doesn’t want to be depended on: When poo hits the fan, he’s nowhere to be seen. You might get some sympathy from him, but he puts minimal effort into being the person you can rely on. This is because immature boys retreat when things are too difficult for them. Simply put: men are strong, boys are weak.


6. You’re his girlfriend when it’s convenient for him: You had plans for a nice weekend together? Too bad something else came up and he bailed on you. Sometimes, nothing at all comes up, but he just can’t be bothered and would rather sleep in that day. Men are committed to a relationship and put you before themselves at least some of the time. Boys do whatever they want despite you.


7. He gets lazy: He stopped putting in effort months ago. You no longer get the cute texts you use to screen-shot. You have to fish for compliments because he doesn’t offer them up anymore. And “just-because” phone calls are so few and far-between you begin to doubt their existence all together.


8. He’s a hypocrite: Remember when he got mad at you because you texted him “K” that one time? Now he does it when he’s upset just to spite you. All those things you swore never to do again, and he can’t see the irony in the doing them exactly the same way.


9. He has no ambition: He’s really unhappy with ___, but won’t make any steps to fix it. I don’t think every man needs to know what he wants to be in life, but a lack of motivation in his personal life will definitely transfer over to your relationship.


10. Instead of breaking up with you, he’ll be a jerk until you break up with him: This is something only a spineless boy does. When the relationship reaches its expiration date, instead of being honest about it with you, he’d rather be an Bottom until you leave him. Thus, he doesn’t have to be the bad guy, and you’re the one stuck doing his dirty work. There’s a reason girls tend to date older guys: they’re hoping to find someone who has grown out of these tendencies.

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WHATS the first thing you say to your partner after sex?….check out funny reply..

A question was asked..what are the first 3 words you
say to your partner after sex. Their answers would
make you laugh or not, depemds on how it meets you.
But seriously
Guys can be very naughty. ..just read.



You are sweet

Love you more


Yeah!! Mission accomplished!!


Thank you sir!!

Oya go baff (lol)


I need milk


Oya dey go!

Who is next!!


ThankGod for sex!

You need more?

You too shout!!


Who’s your daddy?


Get off me(so mean!!)


Where’s that perfume? (Aww..like seriously?)


I wan sleep( Lwkmd)

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Here Are The Causes Of Infertility In Ladies

This is a very helpful piece written By (DR.) OLADAPO
ASHIRU:

A good number of the behavioural factors
affecting fertility can be well corrected in a
medical spa that is equipped with some of the
cutting-edge equipment to remove the
accumulated toxins and encourage new lifestyle
that will discourage such behaviours.
For instance Mayr clinics have been able to
assist a significant number of obese patients to
get pregnant ordinarily or following filed IVF
cycle by getting them to go through a Mayr
therapy and losing between 10kg and 15kg in
10 days; while the underweight patient have
been prepared to optimum weight.
Behavioural factors
It is well-known that certain personal habits and
lifestyle factors impact health and may limit a
couple’s ability to conceive. Fortunately, however,
many of these variables can be regulated to increase
not only the chances of conceiving but also one’s
overall health...

Diet and exercise: Optimal reproductive functioning
requires both proper diet and appropriate levels of
exercise. Women who are significantly overweight or
underweight may have difficulty becoming pregnant.

Smoking: Cigarette smoking has been shown to lower
sperm counts in men, while it increases the risk of
miscarriage, premature birth, and low-birth-weight
babies for women.

Smoking by either partner reduces
the chance of conceiving with each cycle, either
naturally or by IVF, by one-third.


Alcohol: Alcohol intake greatly increases the risk of
birth defects for women and, if in high enough levels
in the mother’s blood, may cause Foetal Alcohol
Syndrome. Alcohol also affects sperm counts in men;
it is reckoned that a bottle of beer a day or three
glasses of wine a day is dangerous for your
reproductive health. In other words, alcohol should be
avoided if you are thinking about conception.

Drugs: Drugs, such as marijuana and anabolic
steroids, may impact sperm counts in men. Cocaine
use in pregnant women may cause severe
retardations and kidney problems in the baby and is
perhaps the worst possible drug to abuse while
pregnant.

Recreational drug like ecstasy use should
be avoided, both when trying to conceive and when
pregnant.


Environmental, occupational factors
Substances that can cause mutations, birth defects,
abortions, infertility or sterility are called reproductive
toxins. The ability to conceive may be affected by
exposure to these toxins or chemicals in the
workplace or the surrounding environment. Disorders
of infertility, reproduction, spontaneous abortion, and
teratogenesis (inborn abnormalities caused by drugs
and other substances) are among the top 10 work-
related diseases and injuries in the U.S. today. Four
chemicals are now being regulated based on their
documented infringements on conception.


a. Heavy metals: Exposure to lead sources, mercury,
titanium, oil fossils, petrochemical fumes, plastic,
paint and other metals has been proved to negatively
impact fertility in humans. Lead can produce
teratospermias (abnormal sperm) and is thought to
be a substance that causes artificial abortion.


Mercury and titanium, as present in large fish and
dental fillings, can prevent the implantation of
embryos.


b. Medical treatments and materials: Repeated
exposure to radiation, ranging from repeated simple
X-rays to chemotherapy, has been shown to alter
sperm production, as well as contribute to a wide
array of ovarian problems.


c. Ethylene oxide: A chemical used both in the
sterilisation of surgical instruments and in the
manufacturing of certain pesticides may cause birth
defects in early pregnancy and has the potential to
provoke early miscarriage.


d. Dibromochloropropane (DBCP): Handling the
chemicals found in pesticides, such as DBCP, can
cause ovarian problems, leading to a variety of health
conditions such as early menopause that may directly
impact fertility.


In general, the understanding of the fact that
environmental factors can create a lot of fertility
problems has made it mandatory for cases of
repeated IVF failures and early pregnancy loss
patients to use the detoxification process before
going through a fresh cycle in order to enhance the
chances of a successful pregnancy and normal live
birth.

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Nasty Things Nigerian Women Do Just to Get Married

1. Snatching a friend or relation’s man: All is fair in
love and war! Rumour has it that women have
resorted to locking their phones, hiding their men and
coding their gist from so-called friends cos it’s a
jungle out there…

2. Re-inventing themselves: Pretence is the order of
the day. No man wants to tame the shrew or teach
the inexperienced or make an honest woman out of a
dishonest one so once marriage is desired, women
package themselves in pseudo, ready-made, easy-to-
use, highly desirable packages. After marriage, what
you see is what you get! #stepfordwifemode


3. Trapping him with pregnancy: This used to be the
old school method of getting a man to propose. From
skipping the pill to seducing the man or getting him
drunk when she was ovulating, a woman usually
knew she had the man where she wanted him once
she missed her period even if there was no
commitment. Now the guys are saying YES to baby
mamas and YES to child support. Are the girls
deterred? NO! The girls have stepped up their game by
involving the parents and you know parents don’t like
scandals…


4. Praying&Fasting:This would presumably be an
honourable means of obtaining a husband but
sometimes the prayers are offered up to deities other
than God& other times it becomes a song permanently
on repeat…


5. Taking his photograph to Cele church for a
prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. Heard it
works like a charm…


6. Taking his sperm, hair or personal effects to Baba.
Guys disposing of your condoms yourself is not such
a bad idea…


7. Outright Jazz! My friends recently gisted me ’bout
how a tied up, live pigeon had been discovered in a
friend’s sister-in-law’s box. The woman confessed to
using jazz and said she hadn’t been sure if the guy
would actually propose so she took the necessary
precaution…


8. Putting love potion in his food! This is classic and
timeless but shouldn’t it be called a ‘compelling’
potion? Because in this case, love na by force!


9. Saying YES to a man you despise! A woman has
two classes of men usually on her case. The ‘correct’
guys and the ‘disgos’. The disgos usually end up as
magas or rebounds but many a woman has shocked
a despondent toaster with a sudden ‘Yes’ and men
have agreed that truly there is nothing God cannot do!


10. Proposing to a guy! Yes it does happen… (Who
wears the engagement ring?)


11. Toasting a man’s family so they make the
decision for him! A friend complained that a girl he
detested had over the months gotten close to his
family. Lavishing on them, cooking for them and
basically being their ‘go-to’ girl and now his mum
had put her foot down that he had to break up with
his girlfriend and marry little-miss-went-home-to-
mama depending on how much power the family
wields, their word may be final…


12. Asking daddy to get you a husband! If daddy’s a
big shot, arranging a husband for you is usually as
easy as pie and some men would sell their souls for a
large chunk of daddy’s money so both parties are
happy…


13. Being your man’s maga! Some women believe that
when you finally get a man to be interested in you,
spoiling him and overlooking his every fault would get
you into a white gown faster than an okada chased
by LASTMA! Some men don’t mind a woman who
houses them, clothes them, feeds them, gives ‘em
pocket money, never gets upset with them even when
they misbehave and cleans up after them with little or
no contribution from them… Living the dream???


14. Giving him unlimited freedom as long as he
proposes: “Tell me I’m number one baby, tell me I’m
the future mother of your kids and not Amina, Bisi or
Ngozi!” Women used to wanna be the one AND ONLY
in their man’s life, now being the number one is good
enough…


15. Polishing up a low class, barely educated brother
in exchange for a ring! The deal is simple, you send
your cleaner, gateman or driver to night school, you
give him language lessons, you take him to buy some
new clothes and deodorant and teach him to call you
honey instead of madam and in exchange, he gets to
marry you, share an expensive bedroom and never
worry about his bills ever again!


16. Revamping yourself: Change your ward-robe, lose
20kg, buy a truckload of brazilian hair, study the
karma-sutra, do a vaginoplasty and change the age
on your birth-certificate to read 22. Botox, plastic
surgery, a compulsory gym membership and ‘body
magic’ also indicated!


17. Becoming a worker in church! Rumour has it that
men go to church to marry, the same rumour also
reveals that ‘Greeters’, ‘Ushers’ and ‘Lead Soloists’
have the best exposure…praise the Lord!


18. Moving to a new town or part of town so that you
are the ‘new girl’. This always peaks the men’s
interest and at the same time you get to run away
from your past and the ‘old maid’ labels! Combine
this with number 16 above and ooh la la!


Tired of waiting for your dream man? Tired of
changing boyfriends like underwear? Tired of begging
God to upgrade you? Tired of waiting for your
boyfriend to propose? Tired of all the heartbreaks and
betrayal? Tired of men chopping you for free? Tire no
more… Statistics show that only 3% of single women
of marriageable age in Nigeria are undisturbed by
their lack of a spouse! The other 97% would do just
about anything to become Mrs somebody.
And when I say anything, I mean it…

Here are 21
unorthodox things ‘classy’ Nigerian women have done
in their quest to bag a husband! Some are bizzare,
some are skanky and some are downright sad…but if
you’re willing to try anything and getting a husband
is the only activity left on your bucket list, you might
wanna try a few! (Men beware) #Not for the
fainthearted…

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Photos: This Woman has Slept with 300 People & must have at least 5 Orgasms per Day!

A 'hypersexual' woman who claims to have slept with
300 people is so addicted to carnal pleasure that she
spends up to five hours a day having sex or pleasuring
herself.


Nessa Jay, 24, from Cromer, Norfolk, finds her
addiction to sex so hard to deal with that she is even
having therapy to try to curb it. Speaking to The
Sun's Jennifer Tippett, Nessa said:
'I get sweaty palms, I feel angry and I need to satisfy
myself if I don't get at least five orgasms a day
through sex.'


Nessa says sex addiction is hard to deal with. She first
discovered her thirst for sex after losing her virginity at
the age of 16 and within 8 years, has had sex with
300 people. She used to have sex with 'anyone I
could'. Nessa says she even used to meet sexual
partners in the supermarkets.
'First I chat to them a bit to make sure they're not
dangerous or odd but once I know they are OK we go
home together,' she said.


Nessa also says she's enjoyed sex with women and
has had threesomes. Her sexual appetite has in the
past wreaked havoc with her friendships and many of
her female friends cut ties with her because they were
afraid, worried that their boyfriends may be attracted to
her.


But trying to curb her nymphomaniac habit, Nessa now
channels much of her sexual energy in to her work as a
sex toy reviewer. She has tested 2,000 toys, and says
the nature of her job helps her to deal with her
cravings. However, while she has been polyamorous in
the past, she has one partner at the moment.


Nessa doesn't want her nymphomania to define her
and hopes people will view people with hypersexuality
as 'normal'. She said:
'I live an average life which most people my age would
live. I see friends, I write, I have hobbies; it's pretty
normal and pretty boring at times actually. My sex
drive may be higher than some but it's healthy because
I'm positive about it. I always make sure I have
incredibly safe sex and get tested regularly.'I'm
perfectly healthy. I can't change who I am or how I act
and I wouldn't want to,' she added.

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Séx Matters: Kiss, Kissing and Kisses

Healthy séx may need a lot of efforts but there are a
few things that can be very effortless as well as good
for couples’ séx life. Kissing is one of those
wonderful things that have several benefits. It
releases endorphins which make one feel happy. A
kiss can be the most effective way to express your
love for your spouse.


When you kiss someone, you make them feel loved;
you tell them how much you love them. Kissing can
be a handy pain killer; it releases adrenaline which
can reduce the feeling of pain. A kiss can help take
away one’s mind from pain and experience
something good. A kiss at the right time can boost
relationship or even take it to a new level. Never miss
a chance to let your spouse feel special and know
how much you love him/her with a kiss.
When we kiss, both men and women produce the
hormone oxytocin that causes us to bond. A kiss a
day boosts immunity against viruses. Kissing works
wonders...
It helps get couples closer. A good kiss is a stress
buster. Cortisol, the stress hormone, is not only
dangerous to our immune system, it also decreases
endocrine hormone in the system and brain but sex
therapists have observed that kissing can lower the
cortisol levels. So kissing your spouse often helps
you fight stress. Nothing can be a better option for
foreplay and intimate moments than kissing. Kissing
ensures that both partners are on the right track to
some wonderful private moments. Lip locking,
another word for kissing, is one gesture couples
overlook and pay less attention to simply because
they do not know its benefits. Did you know that we
have different kinds of kiss?
Have you heard about butterfly kind of kiss? This is
not only delicate but cute. To do this, make sure your
faces are less than a breath away. Then open and
close your eyelids against your spouse’s cheek and
you would feel your heart fluttering with joy. Then we
have the cheek kiss which is one of the best. This
was actually the type of kiss you shared with your
spouse while you were still dating or in courtship.
With this type of kiss, your heart skips when your
crush comes over and bends to plant a kiss on your
cheek.

You would recall that as you kissed your girlfriend
then, you were at the same time putting your hands
around her shoulder [ a sign of possession] and
softly touching her cheeks with your lips over and
over again.

Another type of kiss which couples enjoyed while still
dating but have now almost neglected is the Eskimo
type of kiss.


The kiss is an expression of subtle
intimacy. It involves two people standing so close to
each other. Nothing works more romantically than
altering the tune of breathing by rubbing each other’s
nose. This is most recommended for couples, but
unfortunately bad breath most times makes this very
difficult.
The eye kiss is another type that many couples are
missing especially when they are not used to body
contact or open display of affection. With this type of
kiss, such challenge can be easily worked upon. This
is not the eyeball kiss that will put you or your
spouse at risk of infections, but one that is many
times tender and soulful. Hold your spouse’s head
with your hands. Slowly move their head in the
direction that you want to kiss and when your lips
have reached the eyes, plant a kiss.
I personally think that couples have fewer secrets to
hide when they look into each other’s eyeball
regularly. If you are a spouse that seldom have time
because of busy schedule, then what you need is the
eyelid kiss. With eyelid kiss, you will not need to feel
guilty anymore. All you need do is just plant one on
the eyelid. This is a very intimate kiss that your
partner would probably never come to know of unless
they are awake.

How about the earlobe kiss? All you need do is gently
plant kisses on the cheeks of your partner and move
towards his or her earlobe, then gently sip and suck
on the earlobes.


The finger kiss, you may already have done this with
your partner without really knowing that it is a type of
kiss in itself. The finger kiss involves gently rubbing
the partner’s fingers and sucking on them. This can
be surprisingly seductive and deeply passionate. This
is actually recommended for couples of all ages. A
good kiss is that subtle expression of intimacy.

A good kiss dropped on the cheeks of one’s spouse
is like refreshing morning dew but it takes two to
experience a good kiss.

BY FUNMI AKINGBADE

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Whenever I Enter My Boyfriend's New House I Can't Resist Séx

Dear NastyGist.Com Editor, I love what you are doing on your blog. Please
continue the good work as I and my girls in my office can't stay
without reading your interesting stories everyday. I commend you, it's
not easy.

Please I have a little challenge that I want your readers to help me
check out. I'm dating an Edo guy in Lagos and we've been together
for just four months. He said he's serious but I told him to give me
some time before I give in and he agreed. We've been like that until he
moved into his new house, a 2bedroom flat.
The first day I visited him I was surprised that he had is way with me
and I couldn't resist him. But when I got home I was angry.
Surprisingly, since then any time I enter his house I can't resist, we
mus have séx...

This strange development is beginning to give me serious sleepless
nights. Here is the trouble, whenever he is in my place, I'm able to
resist him and he wont be able to have his way with me. But as soon
as I go to his home the situation must be different, every time.

Please my friends are telling me that this is not normal that they guy
has done something in his house that is in a way subduing me
whenever I enter there.

Please can this be true? Does such things still happen? Should I

confront my boyfriend?
I need sincere help, please.

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S£x Before Marriage: This Is How You Should Do It (MUST SEE)

A lady, Jessica, who kept her “purity” until her
wedding night, had this to say about her boring
marriage:
1. S éxual chemistry
Our bodies wanted different things from one
another, so what we ended up with was a
horizontal battle. I would hear married
girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up séx
and continue to sip my coffee in silence.

We would fight, and then have bad séx and
then fight some more. Every flaw in our
marriage and in him seemed much more
miserable when combined with the possibility
of faking orgasms until death did we part. There
was no relief.
Six months into our marriage, the idea of
separating seemed more appealing than feigning
headaches for the rest of my life.
As Jessica found out, séxual chemistry is
something that can really only be ascertained
by, well, having séx. She would make out for
hours with her husband before their marriage,
so she thought that would translate into
awesome horizontal mambo. Unfortunately, it
didn’t.
2. S éxual identity
What if your partner is gay and he/she doesn’t
even know it? There are too many couples
where one partner was able to cover up his or
her true sexual persuasion because he or she
simply didn’t made love with anyone. Cos not
having séx with the opposite séx means you
ignore those longings you might have for the
same séx, and therefore don’t acknowledge
them.
3. S éx itself
Not everyone is great in bed, and most people
don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good
séx is about listening to your partner and being
able to respond accordingly. But how do you
know if someone is a good listener or responder
unless you try it first?
4. Size
Don’t you want to know if your husband is
packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic
kid’s pistol? After all, he knows how big your
“oranges” are. I’m not saying size should be a
dealbreaker, but don’t you have the right to
know what is down there?
5. S éxual issues
Séxual problems like premature éjaculation,
inability to get an eréction, or even an allergy
to your partner’s semen are all possibilities,
wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues
before you’re married? This way you know if
your future is even going to address them.
Let’s face it, séx plays a big role in marriage.
Just like you should discuss children, religion,
and where you both want to live before tying
the knot, séx is too big a part of a relationship
to leave to chance.
You are free to agree or disagree with my 5
reasons but you know deep down this is the
truth.

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Is Kissing Before Marriage A Sin Too?

Dear NG readers,
It's a fact that premarital sex is a no no. What about kissing
before marriage? My boyfriend keeps talking about kissing and I
don't know if I should go ahead and do it. Biblical and moral
facts to support your point would be appreciated.

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5 Ways to Make Your Woman Feel Secure in Your Relationship

Kim Kardashian's ex-stepdad, Bruce Jenner, according to a report by
TMZ, wants nothing to do with Hollywood anymore. And that includes
his own reality show 'Keeping up with the Kardashians".
Sources connected to both the Kardashian family and the production
say Bruce will not come back for another season of "Keeping Up with
the Kardashians" if the network picks it up. The family is currently
shooting the last installment of the series and even if it gets renewed,
Bruce wants out.
Bruce now reluctantly takes part in the show, only when it's absolutely
necessary. Whenever possible he'll shoot his scenes in Malibu where
he now lives. TMZ was told Bruce has a clear vision of his life as
soon as the season ends ... golfing, spending time with his kids off
camera flying helicopters and riding motorcycles. Bruce wants to
cement the relationship with his sons that he never had when they
were growing up. The relationship is much better than it was but he
wants to continue to strengthen it.

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My Boyfriend Flogged Me With Wire Cos I Slapped Him in Public

I'm a 19 year lady that has been in a relationship
for 8 months with my boo, who is 34 years old.
Every
time my boo and I have a heated argument, I
usually
slap him and then he would apologize to me, we'll
then have make up S*x. It's really the best time to
have S*x, make sense tinz. But 2 days ago he and I
had our regular fights at his friends party because
he
was trying to collect one silly girl's number. So
while we were arguing, I slapped him in front of his
friends and this guy didn't do anything till we got
home.
As I'm writing to you now, I'm at a local hospital
close
to my parents house because this bastard boy tied
me to his kitchen door and flogged me with wire,
because of a slap that used to make us have the
best
S*x.
NastyGisters this bastard man reads this forum, he
as a
matter of fact introduced me to it. Anyways he has
been begging since yesterday. Should I forgive him
or just fashy him. Heard once a beater always and
forever a beater. advice me please because my
parents have never flogged me with wire before.
Please advice.

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Séx Before Marriage: This Is How You Should Do It

A lady, Jessica, who kept her "purity" until her wedding night, had
this to say about her boring marriage:

1. S é xual chemistry
Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we
ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married
girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up séx and continue to sip my
coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad séx and then
fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much
more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms
until death did we part. There was no relief.
Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more
appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life.
As Jessica found out, séxual chemistry is something that can really
only be ascertained by, well, having séx. She would make out for
hours with her husband before their marriage, so she thought that
would translate into awesome horizontal mambo. Unfortunately, it
didn't.

2. S é xual identity
What if your partner is gay and he/she doesn't even know it? There
are too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or
her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn't made love
with anyone. Cos not having séx with the opposite séx means you
ignore those longings you might have for the same séx, and therefore
don't acknowledge them.

3. S é x itself
Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don't start out very
good at all. A lot of good séx is about listening to your partner and
being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone
is a good listener or responder unless you try it first?

4. Size
Don't you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a
tiny little plastic kid's pistol? After all, he knows how big your
"oranges" are. I'm not saying size should be a dealbreaker, but don't
you have the right to know what is down there?

5. S é xual issues
Séxual problems like premature éjaculation, inability to get an
eréction, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all
possibilities, wouldn't you rather deal with those issues before you're
married? This way you know if your future is even going to address
them.
Let's face it, séx plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should
discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before
tying the knot, séx is too big a part of a relationship to leave to
chance.
You are free to agree or disagree with my 5 reasons but you know
deep down this is the truth.

- Jessica

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He/She Is Mistreating/Disrespecting You….Because You Allow It

We tend to complain when people disrespects and mistreats us in relationships and we just allow it to
continue. The general consensus is that, it is men who are the worst offenders but I think it’s some women
who have sent a clear message to them that they’ll accept anything including being disrespected and
abused. I am not making excuses for them but as women, we unknowingly sow the ‘I’ll accept any crap’
seeds into the mind of a man because we want something in return from them; so when those seeds
germinate in their minds, they treat the women accordingly.
You often hear people complain ‘he/she treats me like an idiot’…but who allowed him/her to treat you like
an idiot in the first place? The reality is until you allow somebody to disrespects or mistreat you, it won’t
happen. Most of us, if not all, have in one way or the other been disrespected by others and either we
sought ways to end it, allow it or believed we deserved that treatment because of whatever the person is
doing for us.
The first time people tend to mistreat/disrespect, we just give them the benefit of the doubt (just find
excuses for them as to why they’re doing that), then if it happens again, it’s either we take the decision of
not associating ourselves with them or just tell them (non-verbally) that ‘I’m fine with this so you’re at
liberty to just go on doing it’.

Sometimes, we come into contact with people who prize themselves highly over everyone else (men
especially); there’s no iota of humbleness in whatever they do or say to others with an annoying dose of
self-centredness and I don’t blame them that much because they’ve come into contact with people
(ladies) who have made them quasi-gods so it’s like a license for them to behave anyhow to anyone
they meet. And it’s so intriguing that these people do not tolerate nonsense but they expect others to
tolerate their nonsense attitude and behaviour.
You deserve happiness and more from relationships with others. In order to have more, you must take
control of your life and make some changes. Change starts with you. It doesn’t sound wise to others if
you complain you’re always being disrespected, mistreated or even look down upon because you have a
choice to move away from situations like that. If you don’t want to move away from situations like that
but if necessary, disassociate yourself from people who only gives you grieve and nothing else or you
grin and bear it…but whilst you’re bearing it, don’t forget that somewhere along the line; you just lose
the sense of who you are.
You teach people you meet how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop and what you reinforce…
The solution points to YOU.

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Pastor’s Wife Caught By The Husband Sleeping With Another Man On Their Matrimonial Bed In Lagos

An Orile-Agege Customary Court in Lagos on Wednesday
dissolved a 20-year-old marriage of a pastor who had accused
his wife of adultery, stealing and threatening his life.
Pastor Olufemi Adewumi, 44, who lives at 12, Ajiboye Close, Ile-
Iwe, Agbado Oke-Odo, Agege, came to the court on Dec.12, 2013,
seeking the dissolution of his marriage to Fatimo, his wife.
Ruling in the case, the Court President, Mr Adegboyega Omilola,
said that the marriage had broken down irreparably.
“Since the inception of the hearing, the woman failed to appear
before the court; a court summon was served to her, but she
failed to come.
“The court cannot continue to wait for the woman that failed to
honour the court.
“So, the marriage is dissolved today. You have ceased to be
husband and wife, you shall go your separate ways unmolested,”
he said.
Omilola granted custody of their two children, aged 12 and 15
years, to the man.
“Take care of the children and ensure you see to their well
being,” he said.
The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the pastor had
told the court that his wife was adulterous and kept bad
company.
“I caught my wife and one of her lovers in her house sometime in
2013. She was not expecting me to come home at that time, else
she would not have invited her lover,” he said.
The petitioner had also told the court that his wife kept bad
company and he tried in vain to keep her away from her bad
friends.
He said that money also got missing in their room on some
occasions and described his wife as a fetish woman who
threatened his life.
“I want the dissolution of the marriage and custody of my
children,” he had said.

(NAN)

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ADULTS ONLY: Pastors and Their Wives Open Up On Séx Life

You see him on Sunday morning well dressed in his three piece suit
and looking freshly anointed. The picture you see is that of a cherub,
who has just arrived from the heavens with a message for the people
and would be back there soon after.
Once he starts to preach, the congregation is overwhelmed with the
awe he exudes. Because this is all they know about him, some
followers believe that is all about the pastor.
Ask some Christians and they will bet their life savings that their
pastors have never visited the toilet, not to talk of having séx. Where
on earth do they have the time for such "things", they seem to assert
in illusion.
But ‘Pastors crave more séx than others’...
The pastor is perhaps the most misunderstood and over-rated being
on earth today. He is rated as a semi-god, incapable of enjoying the
pleasures that life presents him. This is so because he rarely talks to
his adherents about other areas of his life.
Bosede Olusola-Obasa of PUNCH, asked some pastors and pastors’
wives if they have erotic feelings and séxual closeness with their
spouses like other people.
They said the illusion that pastors don’t have séx life only lies in the
minds of few ignorant congregants.
“Séx is a beautiful gift from God within the marriage context. It is not
possible for my husband not to have séx. He feels the same way other
men feel because he is human. It is the food of our marriage just as
food is to the body. We make it a regular affair because the absence
of it can negatively affect our relationship and even his work as a
pastor,” said Pastor (Mrs.) Kemi Olofinkua of the New Anointing
Deliverance Church, Anifowose, Ikeja, Lagos.
She said that both she and her husband do not take séx for granted
because starving one another could cause a scandal, especially if not
properly managed.
She said that she seldom turned down her husband’s invitation
because strange women would willingly offer themselves if allowed.
Olofinkua said, “People who think pastors don’t have séx must be
funny. No matter the level of anointing, a pastor needs his wife at
home. The difference between a pastor and other men is that he can
cope whenever his work demands that he abstains from séx .
“But it is dangerous to make him burn with desire for séx without
satisfying it with his wife. If this happens, he could be pushed out
into the waiting arms of many others because pastoral work usually
endears pastors to people – men and women. As a pastor’s wife, I
don’t take my husband’s séxual need for granted. When he beckons,
no matter how tired I am, I don’t turn him down.”
Similarly, Pastor Mrs. Shade Toyin-Kehinde said it is a fallacy to
think or say that pastors don’t have séx with their wives.
She said, “Pastors are not woods. It is the same with pastors as it is
for other men. Séx is an integral part of every marriage. It is anti-god
to wish it away. A healthy, regular séx is important to pastors
because it makes them to maintain focus and avoid falling on the
laps of other desperate women, who wish to have them because of the
glory on them .”
She said that she makes it a point of duty to ‘serve’ her husband,
especially after he has done great spiritual exploits, adding that a
pastor who has a poor séxual relationship with his wife would engage
in extra-marital affairs.
She said, “ If your wife has just served you hot pounded yam and egusi
soup before leaving home and someone then offers you beans, you will
naturally turn down the offer because you’re satisfy . I don’t joke with
my séxual relationship with my husband and I never say no to him.”
Toyin-Kehinde, who is the wife of the Pastor in charge of Agape
Generation International Church, Maryland, Lagos, said there should
be no week without séx between a pastor and his wife. She said a
healthy séx in marriage enhances holiness.
She said, “The anointing attracts goodwill and people. Some women
in church get so carried away that they tell the pastor ‘I just like you.’
The pastor’s wife must help her husband to overcome these overtures
by being there for him.
“My husband doesn’t flirt but we have devised means to stay close
always. Our offices are just side-by-side. When a woman comes to
him for counselling and she is not properly dressed, he directs her to
me. We preach healthy séx in marriage and we practise it.”
She said it is unfortunate that some pastors pretend to be too busy to
enjoy séx in marriage.
84-year-old pastor shares experience
Speaking from a male pastor’s viewpoint, 84-year-old clergyman,
Rev. Moses Iloh, who is a Senior Pastor at Soul Winning Chapel,
Ebute Meta, Lagos, offered personal love experience.
Having been married to his wife, Love, for 48 years, he said that a
healthy séxual relationship, among other things, has made him a very
happy man.
He said that the secret of the érotic relationship between him and his
wife is doing everything together.
Iloh said, “When we are 50 years in marriage, we will get married
again; we did same when we turned 25.
“From the first day of marriage, we bathed together, ate together,
shared the same bedroom. Our bodies belong to one another. With
these activities, there can be no barriers to a good séx relationship.
We don’t starve ourselves of séx,” he said.
Iloh regretted that some pastors allow themselves to be overtaken by
temptation because they neglect their wives in the name of being
busy.
He said “It is foolish for a pastor to abandon his wife because he is
doing God’s work. His wife is his priority .
“If you take good care of your wife, she will make love to you willingly.
That is what I have been doing. I am 84 and very agile, happy
because I have a happy home. Matrimony is the happiest thing that
happened to me. My wife is not around now but wherever I am, I am
always rushing home to be with my wife, friend and confidant.
“People who run into hurting relationships are open to illnesses and
may die young. They should seek help.”
Another male pastor, Pastor Bisi Adewale, said that nothing could be
farther from the truth than believing that pastors do not have séx
with their wives.
He said pastors crave séx just like every other man and there should
not be any pretence about it.
“My wife is not available right now; she would have told you more.
Pastors demand for séx more than men who are not pastors because
they have only one wife to turn to. The fact that we are pastors
doesn’t eliminate our biological make up. There should be no
pretence about this matter.
“I heard of a pastor who said he was looking for God’s power and
abstained from his wife for more than 10 years and a prominent
pastor in the country had to travel to Port Harcourt to settle the
issue. His wife needed him, but he wasn’t there. He didn’t get her
consent to go on a long period of abstinence to fast and pray to seek
the power of God. His wife had to resort to the use of vibrator .”
He gave another instance when a pastor abstained from his wife for a
long time to seek power until his mechanic impregnated his wife .
He said pretending about the need for séx is a major cause of
scandals in ministries and it should be avoided.

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THESE ARE 10 THINGS YOU SHOULD DO ON VALENTINE'S DAY

Plain and simple:
Chocolate is to Valentine’s
Day what Bruce Willis is to Die Hard – the
star of the show. You can’t go wrong with
chocolate when it comes as a present, so why
not turn the entire day into one, long sweet
taste test? After all, this is not the day to
count calories. So plan a great meal with an
extensive dessert menu that lasts

1. Reenact your first date
There’s a good chance that the beginning of your
relationship was the time when you made the most
effort to show her your romantic side, so why not turn
back the clock and remind her how charming you
were when you were first dating?
Think back to your first date – make a reservation at
the same place, eat the same food and reminisce
about how you felt about her when you first met. Do
the same things that first sparked your romance.

2. Get Physical
No, not that kind of ‘physical’. With any luck, that’s
where your Valentine’s Day date will end up, but you
can start things off by getting your heart rates racing
together doing something exciting like going to an
amusement park or going jet skiing. The idea is to
enjoy a little activity and get those endorphins
flowing, which is proven to leave you both in loving
moods.

3. Go for a massage
Going for a massage is a Valentine’s Day treat no
woman will oppose. Either book her a full-body
massage at her favourite spa, or include yourself and
book a couple’s massage. A relaxing massage is just
the thing to get both of you in the mood for
Valentine’s Day.

4. Make a path of rose petals
Anticipation is half the fun of a romantic surprise.
Start the excitement when she walks in the door by
leaving a trail of rose petals leading to the bedroom,
where she’ll find Valentine’s Day gifts. Feel free to go
all out with the heart-shaped box of chocolates, red-
and-white teddy bears and Lovehearts. Today is the
one day she won’t say no to corny romance.

5. Get a room
Changing up your surroundings can give an
automatic boost to your love life. It doesn’t have to be
complicated — booking a hotel room, for example,
can be a nice change to the day-to-day and can make
you both feel instantly relaxed. Nobody’s responsible
for doing the dishes or cooking dinner; instead you
get to focus solely on each other in a new
environment.

6. Be homebodies
Sometimes the best Valentine’s Day gift you can give
is the gift of uninterrupted time together doing
nothing. You don’t need to leave the house to make
Valentine’s Day special. Think of how great it could
be to spend the entire day in bed together — without
interruption. Turn off your phones, don’t answer the
door and enjoy each other.
7. 24 Hours Of Chocolate
Plain and simple: Chocolate is to Valentine’s Day
what Bruce Willis is to Die Hard – the star of the
show. You can’t go wrong with chocolate when it
comes as a present, so why not turn the entire day
into one, long sweet taste test? After all, this is not
the day to count calories. So plan a great meal with
an extensive dessert menu that lasts — think of it as a
pub crawl except instead of pints at pubs it’s dessert
at various cafes. The returns on this relatively
effortless Valentine’s Day idea are staggering because
your partner will be reminded of your sweetness all
day long.

8. Get away
If you’ve got the time, money and freedom, stretch
your Valentine’s Day into a Valentine’s weekend away
at a romantic resort far away or bed-and-breakfast
nearby. Do some research a few weeks before and
send her three options, so she won’t be completely
thrown off guard and can book the time off if needed.
Then sweep her off her feet (or, out of wherever you
live). This way you can combine the relaxation of a
mini-vacation with time spent alone together. Who
says no to a vacation?

9. Cook her dinner
There’s nothing anyone loves more than being
completely taken care of — so wherever you’re
planning on spending the night of Valentine’s Day,
give her a dozen roses and a nice card (where you tell
her how much she means to you), light some candles,
cook her a nice dinner, give her a mini-massage, and
tell her not to get up from the couch (or bed) all night
long because this is her night and you want her to
completely relax. No woman will complain.

10. Dress up
Make a dinner reservation somewhere fancy and
dress up in your finest. Better yet, tell her the night
before that she needs to dress up (so she can prepare
– she may need to do her hair or pluck her eyebrows)
because you have a reservation. Dressing up always
makes the occasion feel extra special, and she’ll love
that you put thought and planning into making a
reservation. If you’re a couple who enjoy getting the
chance to get all dolled up, and you can both have fun
looking your best while spending time together.

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Female Student Rapéd By Her Brother After She Got Drunk

Crisis is gradually brewing in a family at Ijoko area of Ifo Local
Government Area of Ogun State as a man in his 20s was said to have
rapéd his step-sister after he took her out and got her drunk in a
club.
The Elesin family, which recently moved to their own house at Ijoko
area is currently thrown into confusion an NYSC member and second
born of the family, has been fingered in the rapé of his own sister,
said to be a first year student in a tertiary institution.
The unfortunate story is that the 21yrs old lady was forced into
séx by the man she knew all her life as her own brother. It was
reported that the corps member, currently serving in Enugu State,
hatch the plan when he returned to Lagos early last month.
At the time, Miss Patricia was also at home while waiting for her
school to resume from the prolonged strike of Polytechnic teachers
currently ongoing in the country. The corps member was the only
product of his father’s first marriage, while she is the daughter of the
man’s second wife, identified simply as Jessica.
On Saturday, January 25, 2014, the corps member was said to have
taken his younger sister to a popular pub in the area where he
reportedly fed her with liquor. Apparently drunk from the outing, she
was driven home in a tricycle with her brother.
It was gathered that the corps member was 'heavily drunk' from the
outing and both were all alone at home that night. Their parents, it
was reported, were away from Lagos to attend a burial ceremony of
Jessica’s uncle in the eastern part of the country.
The young lady was so drunk that she could barely walk, as her
equally "drunken" brother piloted her into her room while he also
reportedly went into his bedroom that fateful night. But it was
gathered that shortly after she got to bed in her room, her brother
found his way back there and forced his himself on her.
She later woke up dead in the night to find herself and her half-
brother stark naked in bed and in her own room. There and then she
raised the alarm which drew the attention of their co-tenants. It was
also gathered that all attempts by the corps member to prevent his
sister from raising the alarm over the act were rebuffed by her as she
was hell bent on exposing him.
The corps member left the family apartment at the dead of the night
to an unknown destination. She was said to have narrated her
experience to the neighbours when they arrived in their apartment.
The young lady reportedly put a call to their parents in far away Imo
State and told them what had happened. And they returned to Lagos
the following day.
Speaking on the condition of anonymity, a female neighbour claimed
that Patricia’s yell raised residents from their deep sleep. The woman
claimed that her husband was among the first callers at their
apartment, but the guy had already fled the house before anyone
arrived.
The neighbour had to take the young lady to an hospital on the
orders of their father whom they spoke with on telephone, probably to
make sure she is giving drugs to prevent her from getting pregnant.

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Severe Waist Pain After Sex... Is It Normal???

Well done CEO NASTYGIST , i like the work you are doing on your blog ,
please help me post this so that i can learn from some of your blog
readers. Here is my story ;

When i married my wife i was a virgin, meaning she was the first
woman i ever slept with. We have been together for over six months
now and she is four months gone in pregnancy (PTL!). We made a
pact and never had sex till after marriage, but i have realised that
after every on of our sexual encounters i start having severe waist
pain. My wife knows about this, but she refuses to talk about it so as
not to hurt my male pride. I feel like a weak man, as if i am not doing
things right. I'm still new to the game of sex, but that does not mean
i am a novice. Please help me ask your blog readers if the severe
waist pain i experience after meeting with my wife is a normal thing
with those who just started meeting a woman sexually, or do i need a
doctors help?

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My Girlfriend Is Having Séx With Men In Bank To Get Promotion

Trouble started in my relationship with Amara early last year when
she started going about with one fat lady in our area. Although we
live in the same house, after I went to see her mum and also took her
to my family in Delta State, but I hardly touch her at night, unless I
struggle before she will allow me do anything.
Since she started following the fat lady, she changed her name to
Amyy and I was told it was the lady who got a job for her in the
bank. As soon as she started the work, my girlfriend changed totally
as she dress very badly and when I complain she said I should get her
a job if am man enough. NASTYGIST can you imagine?
In just 8 months of working, the bank have promoted her and she now
wears costly gold and perfumes.
I can even say that am ashamed to say this, but Amara brought
another man to my house three weeks ago when I went to work and a
boy in my compound used his phone to capture them making love...
It was last weekend that I didn't go to work that this boy decided to
show me the video. It was like blue film and I wonder how many
people would have seen my girlfriend getting screwed in his phone
before he came to me with the video. I feel like crying.
I confronted her and she denied. She said it is computer manipulation
that I should not believe all this boys that know how to operate
computer. In fact Amara is taking me for a fool but I don't know how
to tell my mum that I'm not interested again and chase her out of my
house.
I'm 36 and my mum once said any mistake this girl make I should
forgive and marry her. What can I do?

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