Men & Woman: Here Are Natural Ways To Delay éjaculation

Last week I promised I was going to share with you natural ways to
delay éjaculation, prevent weak erection, overcome premature
éjaculation and increase séxual stamina. Premature éjaculation, or
ejaculating before you or your wife want you to, is a common problem
that strikes most men at some point in their lives.
Several factors can influence when éjaculation occurs during the act
of séx, but it can be controlled with some forethought or, in extreme
cases, medical intervention.
Below are strategies to help you get over premature ejaculation and
improve your séxual stamina...
Sometimes we do not have any medical condition; this condition just
happens. For quick fixes, I suggest you just wear a condom or two
together at the same time as the case may require. It sounds too
simple to be true, but it works for a lot of men. The most natural
thing is to apply strategic pressure. With a little anatomy knowledge,
you can delay an oncoming ejaculation by applying pressure to one of
two spots.
First is the perineum pressure: this is pressing on the perineum,
perineum is a spot midway between your scrotum and your anus, and
firm pressure will help to stop ejaculation because this spot reaches
through to the prostate gland. It is the prostate that contracts and
expands during orgasm and then expels the ejaculation fluid. If you
find it difficult to do, just make sure you are very clean down there
and there after, ask your wife to assist in applying this loving pressure
for you. Then the testes tug: When a man is so close to orgasm or
very near orgasm, his scrotum rises up closer to his body. You can
delay ejaculation by gently pulling your testes down and away from
your body.
To make it more romantic and passionate, teach and train your wife
to do this for you. Another natural way is to do all you can to reduce
anxiety. For many husbands’ extreme williness to over-impress their
wives, couple with anxiety and pressure to perform have been a major
contributor to premature ejaculation. If you can just relax and
remember that your wife probably cares about you and all you
represent in her life more than the timing of your orgasms, and that
premature ejaculation doesn’t mean you can’t still be good in bed.
Then, don’t start off sex with orgasm in focus please and please, take
climaxing out of your expectations. Instead of viewing intercourse
only as a means of achieving orgasm, reframe it as relaxing,
pleasurable time with your adorable wife and season of bonding that
you’ll enjoy regardless of ejaculation. For effectiveness, take time out,
have a family meeting and discuss this new mindset with your wife,
so that she can stop pressuring you, intentionally or un-intentionally.
Then while in the very act of sex, do all you can to think nonsexual
thoughts. If you notice yourself getting too excited, turn your thoughts
to something distant, abstract and unsexy, such as math, rush hour
traffic or football match.
Only dwell on it long enough to give yourself a short break from
arousal, maybe 5 to 10 seconds, and then refocus your attention on
your wife and the action of sex. Avoid thinking of a topic that is going
to make you stressed or cause you to lose your arousal entirely.
Thoughts such as the payment of the children school fees, Nigeria
erratic power supply or some moods killer thoughts should be
avoided. Now proceed further and try edging. Edging, or orgasm
control, is the practice of maintaining a high level of sexual arousal
while delaying ejaculation. It takes practice, but it gets easier over
time.
Here are two methods recommended to stop premature ejaculation.
Stop-and-start method: Have intercourse as usual until you feel
yourself coming uncomfortably close to orgasm. Immediately and
abruptly, cease all stimulation for 30 seconds, and then start again.
Repeat this pattern until you’re ready to ejaculate. Squeeze method:
Have intercourse as usual until you feel like orgasm is seconds away.
Abruptly, stop other stimulation and gently squeeze your thumb and
forefinger around the part of the penis where the glans meet the shaft
(or your wife could do this).
After squeezing for a few seconds, try and pause all stimulation for
another 30 seconds before resuming intercourse. Repeat this pattern
until you’re ready to ejaculate.
Then try and change sexual positions. Some intercourse positions put
less pressure on the glans (or the most sensitive part of the penis).
Here’s what to do: Try “passive” positions. Lie beneath your wife, or
try a side-by-side (or spooning) position. Avoid “active” positions.
Missionary and rear-entry positions place the most stimulation and
friction on the glans, so consider taking them off the menu for now.
And then take it slow. Depending on your personal sensitivity, slowing
your movements and opting for gentler, more teasing intercourse can
help you hold off orgasm longer. If you find yourself getting too close
to orgasm, slow down a bit, change to a new position, or take a break
to stimulate your wife in fore play. Make sure you focus on foreplay.
Sometimes, “premature” ejaculation is a frame of mind. Even if your
ejaculation comes quickly during intercourse, you can still give your
wife a great sexual experience through more extended, intimate,
attentive and generous foreplay. Stimulate your wife enough manually,
orally or with toys, and she may not need or want a long session of
intercourse to finish happy.
Then of course, do PC muscle exercises. Flexing and strengthening
your pubococcygeus (PC) muscle can help you exert more control
over ejaculation. (Note that this is also called Kegel exercises, which
you might have heard me recommend for women. The muscle is the
same in both sexes.) Locate your PC muscle. Put one or two fingers
right behind your testicles.
Pretend that you are urinating, and then try to stop the flow with a
quick muscle contraction. That muscle you just used to stop the flow
from the bladder is your PC muscle. Flex the muscle regularly. Try to
do 10 to 20 squeezes in a set, 2 or 3 times a day. Do a set whenever
you’re bored or stationary, like when you’re sitting at your desk or in
traffic. No one will be able to see that you’re doing them. Squeeze
your PC muscle when you feel ejaculation coming on. Once the muscle
is strong enough, you should be able to hold it off just like stopping
flow when urinating. Practise controlling your orgasm. When you are
with your wife, focus on improving your control over your climax.
Stimulate yourself to the edge of climax and then stop.
Do this several times before finishing. As you practise, learn to
recognise the feeling of getting close to orgasm, and take note of how
close you can get and still effectively stop, and when you’ve reached a
“point of no return.” During intercourse, use that knowledge to slow
down or adjust your movements if you get too close too early.
Condoms reduce stimulation for most men, which should prolong the
time before ejaculation. But while looking for a condom to buy, steer
clear of condoms that are marketed as extra thin. Instead, get a
brand that allows more stimulation later.
Some condoms are coated with a slight numbing gel on the inside.
This can help you put off ejaculation for longer without causing
numbness to your wife. (Just make sure you know which side is where
when you put it on.) Use an analgesic cream or spray. There are two
classes of these products. The first is the traditional “numbing”
creams and sprays that have been in the market for some time. The
advantage is that you’ll feel less sensation, which will delay
ejaculation. While the disadvantage is that your wife may suffer a loss
of sensation as well and of course less sensitive intercourse is not
always an appealing notion, even in these circumstances. There is a
new class of topical herbs that absorb into the skin to deliver a mild
anaesthetic to the sensory nerves below the top layer of skin of the
penis.
This allows men to have ejaculatory control but with less loss of
sexual sensation, and reduces the transference to their wives. If you
routinely ejaculate less than a minute and a half after beginning
vaginal intercourse, and none of the above fixes have worked, it might
be time to see a sex therapist.

BY FUNMI AKINGBADE