Valuable Love Lessons from a Mother to a Daughter

Throughout
your lifetime you
will run into lots of
advice about how to
“catch” a man, how
to “be attractive” to
men, how to “keep”
a man…the list goes
on. Can I tell you
right now that that
advice is pure and
total crap? Sure, you can follow those instructions and “catch”
yourself a man, but if you’ve followed said advice, is he really
going to be the man you want? Because if a man has to be caught
like a bass fish then you might consider setting him free, and
instead look for a partner; not a fish. As you constantly tell me:
“Just sayin’.”


So here, my wonderful girl, are some qualities that I think should
be non-negotiable for the man who is lucky enough to be a partner
in your life.

1. Don’t bother with a man who you think cares about you but
can’t show you or say so. If he can’t tell you how much he loves
you, then he’s not going to be able to handle the big
conversations that are required for a healthy, long-term
relationship. Not to mention that you deserve to hear words that
relay love and affection throughout your entire life.


2. Don’t even think of spending more than a few hours with a man
who isn’t every bit as interested in you as you are in him.If you’ve
gone on a couple of dates with him and he hasn’t asked you any
questions about you, run like an ax-murderer is chasing you.

Just
RUN! The best relationships are filled with mutual respect and
mutual interest in each other’s lives. Self-centeredness is truly one
of the worst qualities you can find in a potential mate.


3. If a man says he wants to take care of you, I’m suggesting you
move on . You are not a fragile doll to be cared for — and neither is
he. Loving couples take care of each other because they are
partners in life.


4. A man who is completely focused on your appearance might be
enticing at first… but don’t do it. Of course you want him to be
attracted to you and you to him, but if he’s only about your
breasts, he’s unlikely to value how brilliant, clever, and funny you
are. Do you want your breasts to be the focus of your relationship
until the end of time? (I don’t).


5. Don’t spend your time with a man that you want to change as
soon as you can. if you can’t live with his bad habits or qualities
now, then you shouldn’t be with him in the future. He will only
change if and when he wants to.


6. Finally, don’t ever settle for a man who only offers you crumbs
of love. You will go through life starving. Love fully and
completely and don’t settle for anything less in return.
Don’t let loneliness or insecurity dictate whom you love. That
won’t be real or satisfying — it will be filling a deficit in your life.


Find a man from a place of security and confidence so that you
don’t feel you need him to “complete” you, but rather you want
him to be the person you love and who loves you back.